
Joan Benedict Steiger |
Balancing Marriage And Acting
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credits dating back to the original Candid Camera on
television Joan Benedict Steiger has lived the
artistic life she first dreamed of as a child in Brooklyn – and
the dream shows no sign of ending.
Her list of stage credits include
acclaimed productions of contemporary offerings such as
Promises, Promises, The Beauty Queen of Leenane,
Collected Stories by Donald Margulies, her two solo
shows, Leona (about notorious "Queen of Mean" Leona
Helmsley) and the recent The Loves of My Life, based on
her own life. On screen, she also co-starred with Don
Knotts and Tim Conway in the comedy The
Prizefighter.
Indeed, perhaps Joan Benedict
Steiger’s career is all the more remarkable for having endured
through three long-term relationships, to what she describes as
"three of the greatest guys in the world."
"Both of my husbands, and my lifetime
partner Jeremy, were wonderful men who respected me as an
actress," she says. "They all died from different forms of
cancer, so my memories are sometimes bittersweet, but no
regrets."
She was only 19 when she met actor
Rod Steiger, who took an instant liking to her when they
appeared on the same television show together.
Though the romance with Rod was
short-lived, given their respective dedication to pursuing their
careers, Joan soon found herself in love with leading stage
actor John Myhers.
"He toured in The Sound of Music
for three years as Captain von Trapp, and I would take time off
to travel with him," she says. Settling in a home near Sunset
Plaza in the Hollywood Hills, their marriage lasted thirty years
before Myhers’ passing.
Rod and Joan found each other again in
the late 1990s. Rod had heard rave reviews of some of Joan’s
stage work. "I got a call from him out of the blue. He’d been at
a party where someone had mentioned me, and we got together
again after all those years."
Joan and Rod were nearly inseparable
for the final years of his life, becoming creative partners as
well as spouses. "Rod was very impressed with my acting.
Whenever a script would arrive at the house, he’d ask me to read
it for my feedback, then he’d say, ‘Did you pick out your part
yet?’"
They appeared in two films together,
A Month of Sundays and the telefilm The Flying
Dutchman. After a long life marked by tremendous highs and
crushing lows – Steiger acknowledged suffering from chronic
depression for much of his professional career – the Academy
Award winning actor seemed to find new confidence and peace with
his newly rediscovered love.
Steiger’s passing in 2002 was a
devastating loss, but another friend from long ago was able to
fill some of the void. Actor Jeremy Slate, a veteran of
over 80 films and television shows dating back to 1959, was
Joan’s partner until his passing in 2006. "They were all actors,
writers, directors, brilliant, funny men," Joan says of the men
who captured her heart.
Perhaps one of Joan’s most unusual
jobs is one where she was asked to "fill in" – in a manner of
speaking – for a Hollywood legend.
MGM was preparing to make
Butterfield 8 starring Elizabeth Taylor. She was
reluctant to cooperate because she was eager to begin work on
Cleopatra. MGM wanted to shoot the film in New York and she
wanted to stay in Los Angeles.
Joan was asked if she could go to New
York to rehearse the film, playing Taylor’s part. Joan worked
for weeks reading Taylor’s lines, and her dedication paid off
when she was awarded a small part (a single line) in the film –
for which she still earns residuals.
The role won Taylor her only Academy
Award, but curiously, their paths would cross again years later
through their mutual acquaintance with Rod Steiger.
"When Rod and I were first dating, he
went to see Elizabeth about working on a new project," she says.
"This was a period when she wasn’t feeling well, and Rod was one
of the people who really encouraged her to get well and return
to public life. That led to speculation that Rod and Liz were
dating and he was going to be her next husband.
Rod and I were on an airplane to
Spain, and he liked to read the tabloids. I saw the headline
saying Liz and Rod were going to wed. I said, ‘What’s this all
about?’ He smiled at me and said, ‘Joan, I’m sitting next to
YOU!’"
See more of Joan at
www.joanbenedictsteiger.com